The Activities that Lower Your Self Confidence

 Self-confidence plays an important role in one's life because with strong confidence one dares to challenge the problems that arise. Likewise, a person's strong self-confidence can develop their potential to the fullest. This self-confidence must always be nurtured and developed so that we can pursue the coveted goals. Therefore, try not to lose confidence in yourself. The following are habits that can lower self-confidence, as reported by ezineartcle.com:

 

1.      Constant comparison with others:

 Nobody's journey is the same as yours and not everyone has the same personal or professional goals like you. Your only real parameter of growth is how far have you come at a personal level. As long as you strive to be a better and more aware version of yourself every day, you are on the right track.

2.      Taking failure to heart: 

If success was to come easy, it wouldn't feel like a victory. If everything was to be served on a platter, you wouldn't enjoy it, not every minute would feel like something you should cherish. Failures are important and they tell you that your life is yet to bring you the best of experiences and achievements. You can wake up every day wanting more opportunities to learn and challenges to face. Learn from your failures and do better.

3.      Surrounding yourself with superficial people: 

Keeping your circle small is okay. It's okay to keep to yourself and not have someone to go for Saturday night parties with. It's okay to not have every colleague invite you to all sorts of galas because not everyone in each room will want the best for you. Instead of surrounding yourself with people who will fill you up with negative vibrations and a sense of self-doubt, surround yourself with people who do not wish to compete with you or demotivate you. These are the people who will be cheering for you from the front row seat, showing off your every move and telling you how proud they are of you.

4.      Pitying yourself: 

Self-pity is one of the worst things you can put yourself through. Yes, people have it better and yes, some people have it worse. But your journey is different and no, bad things do not happen only to you. Create your reality and learn to believe in yourself. Make the best of every opportunity and if it doesn't work out, do not live the rest of your life doubting your every move. Instead, figure out what you could've done better and experiment more. Nothing lasts forever so you mustn't continue feeling like the hardships will never end for you.

5.      Constantly overthinking:

 Stop convincing yourself that your work is subpar and stop creating unreal scenarios in your head. You will not get fired for printing the wrong sheet or highlighting the word wrong. Even if you have messed up on a larger scale, a good mentor will always tell you it's alright and tell you what you could have done better. What's the worst that'll happen? You'll get fired. It's a tough world but it's also one with booming opportunities. You might not end up doing what you love immediately but with the right mindset and ambition, everything is achievable. That is all you need to convince your mind of. Everything else can be dealt with.

 

 Those are some habits that you must avoid so that your self-confidence remains stable and does not weaken. Happy working

Note :

1. Source of article https://ezinearticles.com/?Habits-That-Lower-Confidence&id=10527507

2. Some pictures are taken from google

 

Here are The Types Friends that Should be Avoided

 

There is a saying, "One man's enemy is more than enough, a thousand friends is far from enough." In essence we should have many   friends. Indeed, many friends will give us various advantages and conveniences. However, there are types of friends that we should stay away from, because it could be difficult for us later.

Reported by BABW.COM, here are 5 types of friends to avoid:

1.Do not let us argue

Friends should be a place to share and exchange opinions. However, it will be the other way around if you find the wrong friend. Friends like this will continue to restrain you and you will continue to be under his control.

2. Take advantage of you

Friends naturally can provide mutual benefits to each other. But what happens if only one party benefits. Making friends with friends like this will make you tired of yourself.

3. You're always there for her, but she disappears when you need her

In friendship, both parties must always be there. But what happens if you befriend a person who disappears when needed. Make sure again if you are friends with ordinary people, not the Avatar who when needed he disappears.

4 . No Trust

Trust will create a sense of security and trust. In friendship, this feeling is needed. If it is not based on your race, you will only be filled with suspicion and discomfort.

5.Toxic Friends

Here, the meaning of a toxic friend is a friend who plunges you in the opposite direction from yourself. Making friends with people like this is something you should stay away from. Toxic friends can keep you from being the best version of yourself.

So those are the types of friends who are not good in our daily interactions. Even though they are not good, it doesn't mean we are enemies. It's just that we have to keep our distance not too close. Right?

Notes: 

1. Manuscript followed directly from https://www.babe.news/a/6982001565963911682?app_id=1124&c=wa&gid=6

2. Some of the pictures are taken from google

Healthy Food To Gain Weight for Skinny Persons

 

For people of developed and prosperous countries, their problem is being overweight, so they try how to reduce their weight, because it is believed that being overweight can cause various diseases. On the other hand, in certain areas that are not yet so prosperous, there are even many emaciated residents who make their appearance less good. Well, they need to increase their weight. Here we will discuss some healthy foods that can increase weight

1.        Rice

 

Rice is the main food in various parts of the world, including Indonesia, which can help you gain weight. In 100 grams of rice, there are 175 calories and 40 grams of carbohydrates. Rice is a calorie-dense food, containing quite high calories and carbohydrates in one serving. Plus when you eat rice, you also add a variety of side dishes. Thus, the calories that enter your body also increase.

2.        Red Meat

A dish of grilled red meat, coupled with a delicious sauce, and served with fried potatoes and vegetables, makes it a complete and delicious dish. Steak meat can also contribute quite a lot of calories for those of you who want to gain weight. You can also get fat if you eat fatty meat, of course this also contributes a lot of extra calories for you.

In addition to the calories you get, meat also provides a lot of protein and amino acids. In 6 ounces of meat contained 3 grams of the amino acid leucine. Leucine is needed to stimulate muscle protein synthesis and add new muscle tissue.

3.         Peanut

The next source of plant-based protein is nuts. However, in nuts you can also find omega-3 fatty acids, vitamin E, and fiber. Nuts also provide sufficient calories. Almonds, for example, in 100 grams can provide 21 grams of protein, 49 grams of fat, and 575 calories. You can add peanuts or processed nuts, such as peanut butter, in your daily diet. This can help you in gaining weight.

4.        Avocado

One of the fruits that contain healthy fats is avocado. Therefore, avocados are included in the fruit that has a lot of calories. This fruit can certainly help you in gaining weight. One large avocado weighing 200 grams can provide 322 calories, 29 grams of fat, and 17 grams of fiber. You can eat it straight or add this fruit to your diet.

5.        Milk

This  drink can also help you gain weight, especially if you drink full cream milk which contains full fat. Milk contains many nutrients, such as protein, fat, and carbohydrates. Milk is also a good source of calcium for you. If you don't want to drink it, you can add it to cereals, puddings, smoothies, and more.

6.        Yogurt

These healthy foods can also help you gain weight, especially if you opt for full-fat yogurt. In addition, you can also add fruits, nuts, honey, and granola in a glass of yogurt as your breakfast. This can help you get extra calories

7.        Chesse

Cheese is widely used to wrap food today. Almost everyone likes it. There is no match for its deliciousness, but it also saves a lot of calories and fat. For those of you who want to gain weight, this could be one way for you. One ounce of cheddar cheese, for example, contains 113 calories and 9 grams of fat (6 grams of saturated fat). Cheese is also a source of protein and calcium.

8.         Dried Fruit

Dried fruit such as raisins are often added to foods, such as cakes, puddings, yogurt, and smoothies. However, do not get me wrong that this fruit contains few calories. In fact, dried fruit contains more calories than fresh fruit. One glass of dried fruit contains 5-8 times more calories and sugar than one glass of fresh fruit. So, dried fruit can be a good solution for those of you who want to gain weight. In addition, dried fruit also contains antioxidants as well as vitamins and minerals.

Those are 8 healthy foods that can be consumed for those who want to gain weight so that their appearance looks healthy and prosperous. good luck

 

 

 

 

Bad Consequences If You Expect Too Much To Meet Other People's Expectation

It's common  in this life anyone is always a hope or expectation of the environment. Starting from the family , the surrounding  and the community. New born baby, the parents' hope is already in the baby. They hope the baby  to be a pious child, smart, and so on. Likewise, when school, parents hope that every time they receive their child's report card, they will be ranked first.

This continues. Many parents want their children to go to school, some want their children to go to public schools, some want to go to madrasas, Islamic boarding schools and so on. And expectations apply to all aspects of life, such as behavior, speech, manners, behavior and so on and so on. So that many people in this life behave not as they want but act like the expectations of their environment.

Meeting other people's expectations   is indeed a positive thing. But if we always hope to fulfill it, of course it is not good, we are not free to act and act, work and express as we desire.   In fact, Hamas, Nurhan RT, who wrote on IDNTIMES COM, stated that there are 5 bad effects that occur if we expect too much to meet the expectations of others, namely:

1. You always depend on happiness based on validation from others

The first bad impact is that you will not be able to make your own version of happiness. 

If you always depend on the benchmark of happiness based on the validation of others, then you will be confused what is the true meaning of happiness in your opinion? If that happens, as a result, your life will only be about what other people think so that true happiness is difficult to happen.

2. You will feel burdened in living everyday life

Not only is it difficult to find true happiness, you will always feel burdened if you often meet other people's expectations. This is because you always try not to make mistakes so as not to be blasphemed by others.

At first glance, you are so careful in socializing. However, in reality you feel depressed because you are living a life that is not what you want. From now on, try to stop this habit because it will only make you suffer.

3. You will tend to underestimate your own abilities

Thinking too much about other people's expectations will only make it easy for you to underestimate your own abilities. This can happen because you only focus on the bad scorn from others about you. So, you rarely appreciate all your efforts. 

In fact, you need to appreciate every hard work that has been done by yourself, you know. So that this does not happen, try not to underestimate yourself, okay?

4. You will use various ways to fulfill expectations, even if it hurts

Someone who often tries to meet the expectations of others is identical to a hard working attitude but in a negative context.

If usually someone will work hard for their own achievement, but in this case you do it for the fulfillment of other people's expectations. You will also try to do things even though it is beyond your ability.

If you keep doing it, sooner or later it will torture you.

5. If you fail to meet other people's expectations, you will become stressed

It was previously mentioned that someone who is used to meeting other people's expectations will tend to be willing to do everything. If you don't stop, bad things will happen, namely   prolonged stress if you fail to meet expectations. 

The stress that arises is not because of disappointment, but fear of blasphemy from others. Bad things like this should not happen, because failure is a natural thing. 

After reading this article, cut back on meeting other people's expectations of you. Remember that what saves your life from adversity is yourself, not other people's expectations. good luck!

Notes:

1. Text sourced from https://www.idntimes.com/life/inspiration/tenda-bersajak-nations/dampak-jika-terlalu-memenuhi-ekspektasi-orang-lain-c1c2/5

2, Some pictures are taken from google.